(This category may also include the desire to act out sexual fantasies and fetishes that couldn’t previously be realized).Interestingly, fantasy can be so powerful for him that when reality fails to compete, he finds ways to fade away.Sometimes he will admit to the women he finds online that he is using Internet dating as a diversion, and sometimes he won’t.However, with patience and fortitude there may be the possibility that a substantive relationship can develop.Because Internet dating has been a part of his generational experience, he is more comfortable with it as a normal mode of communication and meeting people, and is generally more open to the process and experience.Therefore, when he connects and makes plans online, he likely follows through, sometimes sooner, sometimes later.
By avoiding actual human contact he isn’t forced to push his boundaries or risk challenging the perfection of his fantasy women with the experience of a real life woman.
After all, he has experienced love before, which is why he’s so heartbroken now, and why you encountered him online.
However, it is equally possible for him to remain non-committal when he is still hung up on someone else, so proceed with caution.
However, it may be possible for him to shift from fantasy to reality now or over time as he realizes he has to make some concessions if he wants to have a real partner. Lies About Age He is typically older, in his 50s, 60s, or even 70s, and is set on meeting and dating women significantly younger than he is, so he shaves years off his life in his profile, even in his "current" online pictures.
He may be very well meaning, and may truly believe that once he meets these young women they will be so drawn to him that the deception won’t matter, and the age difference will be rendered irrelevant.
This can be a difficult and provocative situation for all parties involved, so proceed with caution.