But don’t believe him just yet, because he may just be gaslighting you. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse instilled by the abuser onto the victim in order to evoke confusion that eventually turns into an extreme form of anxiety.As a result, the victim starts to doubt their own perception, memory, judgment, and sense of reality.“You’re one crazy, girl,” your boyfriend may say affectionately, kissing you on your forehead after you tell him something you think you saw *like, you thought you saw him in a restaurant with another girl when he told you that he had a long day at a work*.Then, throughout your relationship, you often hear him things like: “That’s ridiculous.” “That’s not what I said.” “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re just imagining things.” “You’re making things up. ” And when things get really serious, he’ll blow up and say, “I think you need some help.” These are just some of the things that your partner may say to you so you start to question yourself, and maybe even your sanity.Signs that you partner is gaslighting you So how do you know if you are being gaslighted by someone close to you, such as your partner? Calling names can have a harmful effect on a person over time.So if your partner starts to call you “cuckoo” or is telling you that you might be manic-depressive or bipolar *like he’s an authority in diagnosing clinical disorders, right? Anyone who seems keen on putting a psychiatric label on you might have something up their sleeves.[Read: Big signs of abuse that you may be overlooking] Gaslighting is a dangerous form of abuse.Anyone can be an abuser, and anyone can be a victim—regardless of age, gender, intelligence, or any other status in life. #1 You’re being led to believe that you are something that you’re not.
When you talk about your feelings or observations, your partner dismisses them like you’re the only one thinking those thoughts or seeing those things.
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Even if you tell them otherwise, because you remembered some detail they conveniently left out, you’re still in the wrong and so you think it was all really in your head. Worst of all, you lie to yourself — all just to keep the peace because your partner will not stop insisting on their version of things to the point that you’ll end up in a nasty fight, and they’ll make it all your fault.
#12 You’re starting to give up expressing yourself. #14 You’re always saying, “Sorry.” It seems that nothing you do is right.
So you had a rough day at work, and at the end of the day, you plop down to tell your partner all about it.