"That invites comparisons, and when you compare, someone comes up short." The bottom line: You need to be polite and caring when it comes to your partner's feelings. One problem with this rule is that you and your spouse may not have the same definition of a great getaway (you like to ski, he's a beach bum). Lombardo, is the belief "that you have to be each other's likely to split.You need to find ways to fight healthily and productively (without blaming, name-calling and the like), but that said, being committed to respectfully airing out conflicts is a far better rule than "keep your mouth shut." 5. "So often, I see couples who have put their relationship on hold in order to be good parents," says Dr. But those couples, she says, have it exactly backward. It's a myth that couples always sleep better and more cozily together than apart.Isn't it better, she says, to "boringly" know where your spouse is every night than to be "excited" by constant ups and downs?"Better to have a safe, relaxed, 'boring' life together in the everyday.
Turns out, it may go as far back as the Bible, which advises not letting the sun go down on your anger.
Remember, just because someone has different interests than you and/or isn’t your typical “type” doesn’t mean that you should automatically write him or her off.
After all, while it’s imperative that you don’t settle, it’s equally imperative that you give someone else a chance—just as you’d hope others would do for you in return.
So rather than rushing the process and selecting a partner who doesn’t meet all of your needs and criteria, it’s in your best interest to put in the time it takes to date more people and up your chances of finding the one.
Another key dating rule has to do with your overall outlook and attitude about dating itself.
And speaking of setting your own pace, it’s important that you take some of the stress off of yourself and recognize that finding that perfect person won’t necessarily happen overnight.