He or she just wants you to keep your attention on them. The person is an older man or woman who has never been married and has been in a series of broken relationships, or has had numerous broken marriages. Abandoning one's children -- other than giving up a baby for adoption -- may indicate lack of empathy.
People get together at their common level of woundedness -- i.e., their common level of self-abandonment. If this person cannot feel pain for your pain and joy for your joy, you will end up feeling very lonely in the relationship. Sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that prevent a parent from seeing their children, or a parent might come to the painful realization that it is not in the child's best interest to be involved with them.
-- I would be remiss if I didn't also share some cautions to keep in mind.
In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).
Another captured my heart (and still holds it, most tenderly).
And one remains a trusted friend to this day (and I'm glad).
They will change if they want to, but you can't make them change. Many of my very kind clients, in trying to help their partner, have been used and burned by loaning money, or by allowing their partner, who is not earning money, to live with them. If you have a trust issue in general, then you might want to deal with your issue. The person has no close friends and is not close to family.
If this person is not open to healing their judgmentalness, then this will become an increasingly major issue in your relationship. In a relationship, this person will blame you for his or her unhappiness. If you identify with any of these red flags, then you have inner work to do before you are ready for a committed loving relationship. is a relationship expert, best-selling author, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette, and featured on Oprah. what with climbing in and out of the divorce dating pool for years.While I highly recommend dating divorced men -- dare I admit that I've done so on two continents?Psychopaths are extremely dangerous because they lack a heart and conscience but they camouflage that fundamental lack so well.They construct a “mask of sanity” by lying to others and hiding their real motives and identities.The more you become a person who is loving to yourself and capable of sharing your love with others -- rather than a person who is intent on getting love -- the more you will attract someone capable of a loving relationship. To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding e Course, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week e Course, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" - the first two weeks are free!