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' Dick pics' or 'tit pics' can be shared, cyber-sex can occur, sexual abuse happens, in ways that would be unimaginable by real-world standards.It is illegal to flash in public, so why isn't illegal online?Many people seem to think that online dating offers possibilities other, more traditional forms of meeting partners, did not.To begin with, the sheer scale of choice is much greater: whereas previously the ‘pool’ of potential partners would have been limited to the people one knew through family, school, work, or everyday interaction (and, in many cases, chosen by family members), now we can access profiles of users from different parts of town, country, or even different countries, and interact with people we would not otherwise meet in our daily lives.

In some cases, users are able to signal what type of interaction (longer or shorter-term) they are looking for, which, in theory, helps minimize disappointment.Some might say that trawling through this mess is search for something deeper, more fulfilling, and to establish a more traditional or conventional relationship based on face work, intimate trust bonds, loyalty and honour, can seem like a never-ending and fruitless venture.Essentially, being online looking for genuine love can feel like swimming in a barrel of rats.Paradoxically, they may also deplete the emotional content of relationships: the idea of abundance of potential partners 'at a mouseclick' may minimize incentives for sustained commitment to getting to know other people, especially irrespective of their 'mating' potential.In a nutshell, just like any other technology, online dating is a mixed bag: it can enable us to meet more people and in a different way, but, in the end, it cannot do the work of relationship-building for us. Humans are social beings: we gain meaning, purpose, fulfilment, contentment, drama, prosperity, knowledge, understanding from interacting with other people.When I did ethnographic research on heterosexual romantic relationships in 2007, right before the wide adoption of online dating, many of the criteria people mentioned in the selection of potential partners – such as taste in music or cinema, political orientation, or part of town/country they came from – could be read as proxies for class belonging.

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