Needy behavior manifests in a number of ways; some are more overt, while others are surprisingly subtle and are often overlooked.The most immediate and obvious manifestation of needy behavior is acting “clingy”; the overly-needy party doesn’t want to spend a minute apart longer than is necessary.They tend to be so wrapped up in the idea that their date may find someone better that they try to lock him or her down as quickly as possible.The other most common example of needy behavior is constantly requiring reassurance and validation.Recognizing needy behavior in yourself can be difficult; it takes self-awareness and a willingness to be brutally honest with yourself and to try to look at your behavior as a disinterested third party.Part of the problem is that it’s easy to confuse (or rationalize) being needy for simple desire.More often than not, they feel that they’re showing how “passionate” or “devoted” they are, not realizing that they’re being dependent and possessive.
It’s childish behavior and one that causes people to instinctively veer away.
By projecting much value into one’s partner, they have put themselves into a position where they feel as though they need to placate her or kiss up to her in hopes of earning her approval.
Regardless of how it came about, neediness is one of the most unattractive qualities a person can display.
They have put their self-worth in the hands of others, defining themselves by their relationship to other people.
Needy people often will say that they’re looking for a relationship in order to “complete” them or to find someone who brings “fulfilment” into their lives…
Not only does it display low emotional intelligence – after all, you’re showing that you are incapable of balancing your emotional needs – but needy behavior is toxic to relationships.