Because we lack education and experience, our early unsuccessful relationships often serve as practice for later successful ones. Keep your connection going through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for each other. Have a sense of humor; give the benefit of the doubt, care about each other.Here are four simple steps to create a successful marriage: 1. When your relationship lasts for a while, your lovemaking will change.Real life is not as romantic as the courtship, wedding and honeymoon, but the real work of developing a great marriage begins now.Because many people have not had lasting relationships of their own, they have no experience or models of the later stages: the development of intimacy and settled partnership phases.Sexless marriage is a complaint I get often from clients.While sometimes, in case of illness or injury, a complete sexual experience is not possible in marriage, it is always best to have whatever sexual experience is available to the couple. Don't kid yourselves that you can be “best friends” and your marriage will last.
Many relationships don't make it through this stage, because if the lovers don't understand or expect this change, it can feel like something is terribly wrong.
Couples who develop a"sexual repertoire which includes a variety of sexual habits, attitudes and options report feeling more satisfaction and freedom to express their love with enough variety that they never get bored.
These suggestions will help you create a variety of experiences together.
Eventually, if the relationship survives, the couple develops a style of intimacy that works for them.
A couple who've made it this far feels more secure, more settled.
You're beginning to get to know each other, warts and all.