Online dating sites love to boast about the millions of members they have.
But as it turns out, they’re heaving shovelfuls of statistical manure at you.
And guys, if Mother Nature graced you with the splintered end of the eloquence stick, this man will be your online dating coach.
And don’t take it personally if most of the people you message never reply since they may be not even be real. There are some sketchy people out there, and the online dating sites can’t do much about them.
You may believe it’s better to have too many than too few choices, but that’s not the case when it comes to dating.
One psychologist calls it the, the Paradox of Choice, and it says that when you’re given too many options, you get overwhelmed and end up focusing on superficial differences.
If you don’t want to click the link, here’s a quick summary of the report: “Use some goddamned common sense.” Okay, so you probably figure you’re neither dumb nor desperate enough to fall for scams like these. Woo hoo, score one victory for the online dater, right? Hailing down on their own parade, Match admitted that the background checks may do little good.
And hey, mad props to you for being such an exemplary case of human savvy. As a site representative put it, while “these checks may help in certain instances, they remain highly flawed, and it is critical that this effort does not provide a false sense of security to our members.” Thanks, Match. Or was this a subtle “fuck off” to all your dissatisfied daters? Just be wary of the human scum you may come across. The person you meet may not be the person you were corresponding with.
What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.