Once those worries are out of the way, you can actually relax and have fun.
These rules apply to any form of blind date, including those arranged by matchmakers or friends and family. When you have bad DZs, you want to give up on dating entirely; your self-esteem takes a hit and you start to feel that you will never meet the right guy.
So, please lower your expectations for any new guy. I cover this topic in my online dating tips for women.
Never get overly excited about a date or invest your emotions in a man who hasn’t yet demonstrated, over multiple dates, that he’s in this for the long haul. Although it’s not what the dating sites want you to do, following this rule will spare you the type of date I describe in Rule #14, where the man has mentally checked out before his first beer. I call the DZ a “sandwich” date because you will sandwich it in between other activities, such as working out or meeting friends for dinner.
Rule 4: Go by a nickname or middle name for the first 3 dates if it makes you feel safer.
While you can’t control for chemistry or a soulmate-level connection, there are effective ways to screen out duds, scammers, and guys who just aren't that into you.The way you talk and move and smile are all part of your unique charm and allure, and can’t be captured in a photo.Just as some men post misleading profile pictures—or lack charisma in real life—he is understandably wary that you may not be what you seem.You can tell a lot about someone through a brief conversation—no longer than the few minutes it takes to arrange your meeting place and time. Remember, texting is silent: If a man resists calling you it can be a sign that he has a girlfriend or is possibly even married.Most women are fine with messaging or email contact only, so you may need to say—after he suggests meeting—"Sounds great, could we figure it out on the phone?FROM ASTRID & MIYURule 7: Forgive his dorky sense of humor.