Half the time you’re on the first date with him, you’re trying to see through him and predict the future: “What’s wrong with this guy? This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.
If you want to be exclusive with a guy, you have to give him time to want to be exclusive with you.
Now that I’m divorced, I always get a good night’s sleep because no one wakes me with their snoring, no one steals the blanket, and no one puts their cold feet on me.
Why would I want to go back to sharing a bathroom or bedroom with anyone? You know what needs to be done and how and when it needs to be done.
My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.And if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.You’ve said it to me loud and clear; you’ve been hurt before, you don’t want it to happen again, and you definitely don’t want to waste your time.You can stay in your pajamas and watch chick flicks on Netflix, or you can get up early and run non-stop all day. The longer you wait, the more scared you are to enter the dating world, especially if you were married a long time and enjoyed the comfort and security of a loving relationship.The thought of fielding pick-up lines from guys at bars can make you hyperventilate.She and I both came to the same conclusion – because we waited too long, dating is harder and the thought of letting someone into our lives makes us a little twitchy.