In other words, you can have an amazing marriage to a man even if you don’t obsess about him, miss him mournfully while he’s gone for a few hours, or be positive he’s your soulmate. Frankly, I have trouble surviving a few days without her. It’s far better to be single than to be in a dissatisfying relationship. My 62-year-old mom married a man who was kind and generous to the core, but she wasn’t attracted to him, didn’t respect him, and didn’t laugh with him. I hope this clarifies – for all of you – what you should and should not experience with a romantic partner: a basic level of personal and physical chemistry, a realistic view on that person’s strengths and weaknesses, and a belief that although you’ve been more wildly attracted to other people before, you’ve never had a better relationship in your entire life. This is a great post that clarifies an issue that I had also wondered about.You hear so many people who think women are supposed to be in a relationship with someone just because they’re nice to you and are commitment minded.) for about 150 luminescent K-feldspar grains of two well-bleached aeolian sand samples, previously dated using quartz optically stimulated luminescence (OSL) and thermally-transferred OSL (TT-OSL).Fading tests were performed both on the entire single grain disc, using stimulation by IR LEDs, and on each grain individually, by stimulation with an IR laser.So those are two reasons – lack of a basic personal and physical chemistry – that you should break up with a perfectly nice person. Relevant story: I was with my wife for nearly 2 years when we got married. I’d survived happily for 36 years without her; I would have been able to put things back together in due time.Yet there’s one big reason to keep a guy you’re not obsessed with: Your expectations of chemistry are way off. If she sadly left me at the altar, I’d be devastated, but I would have recovered. 4 years and 2 kids later, my love for my wife is so much deeper and meaningful. That passion most couples feel for the first 18 months? Reality is when the passion fades and you start building a life together. Since you seem pretty ambivalent about him and you’re pretty young, it seems to me you have your answer. As much as I stress comfort, some marriages should never happen at all. I only hope you can experience this feeling as well; but it starts with finding someone whose company you really enjoy, not someone whose company you merely tolerate.If you’re merely tolerating him, rather than enjoying him, you’re wasting both his time and your time. Similarly, if there’s no physical chemistry – meaning, anything less than a 5 or a 6 in that department – cut him loose. You shouldn’t force yourself into believing that he’s cute because he’s nice.
The results are discussed with respect to the applicability of ESR dating on teeth.► Fading tests were performed on the entire single grain discs and on each grain individually.► Individual grains of the same sample exhibit different fading rates.A relationship with a 10 chemistry and a 3 compatibility is going to make you miserable.Now, where readers have twisted my words – annoyingly, repeatedly – is by suggesting that I’ve somehow told you to give up on chemistry. Yet somehow, many readers seem to struggle with the concept of a nuanced world, instead of a black and white one where a man is either your instant soulmate or a complete turnoff.A mammoth found in the southern part of Germany was dated by ESR spectroscopy.