They’ve heard pickup artists preach fucked-up tactics.
They’ve received vulgar sexual texts and private messages online.
Some women think, “So what if men can’t flirt when they want to?
We’re the ones who have to deal with sexual harassment and assault.” This trivializes a very serious issue.
If we don’t put a stop to this school of thought, I worry it’ll be the death of healthy relationships.
When shamed, men cannot express themselves in a healthy manner. Then those same guys watch other men who are assertive and do flirt experience lots of romantic success.
I watched a reporter on CNN state that 50% of college men would rape women if they had the chance, while claiming she “forgot the source”.
And girls give their guy friends dating advice like, “Women don’t want guys approaching them in public.
They’ve been approached by an overly handsy guy at the bar.
They’ve watched videos of women getting endlessly cat-called by men on the street.
What anti-flirting proponents don’t understand is that in most heterosexual relationships, men have to take the active role in flirting. This isn’t me spouting misogynistic values, this is courtship. During my college speeches, I ask women to raise their hands if they prefer to take the lead with flirting.