" For example, "Does the other person accept my disagreement without criticizing me or pushing to change my mind?" Fourth: "Do I like how the other person treats himself or herself in the relationship?" For example, "Do I give my needs and wants as much importance as the other person's in the relationship?
" Third: "Do I like how the other person treats me in the relationship?"-- The Independence question: "Do you both support each other having separate time apart?" -- The Anger question: "Do you both express and respond to an offense or violation so you can talk it out and work it out, not act it out?Respect is how the relationship is conducted in a sensitive manner.Typically it is based on keeping treatment of each other within limits that feel comfortable and safe for them both." It takes a lot of work to create a love relationship in which both parties can answer "yes" to all these questions.